How do you break up with someone after living with them for 4 years?

It's been hell around here. seems like when I'm in between jobs my boyfriend treats me like scum. that's as simply put as I can get it. I moved states for him these past 3 months and i recently left my job about 3 weeks ago to try and get into school,im also looking for jobs as i do that.something a little less stressful like retail. anyway its not the first time hes detached from me, threatened to kick me out, says HE is abstaining from sex...ha aha.whatever... and so on. its pretty much the first time i said I HATE YOU tonight. and i dont regret it. now if i get a job tomorrow everything will be hunky dorie. funny he just walked in as i was typing this and asked if i was alright. the thing is, hes pretending like he cares. the second I TRY to turn the tables on him, he tries just a little bit to help me change my mind and go back to being his puppet slave,and degrading me. i miss home so much! and now that im trying to get into school for the first time ever, im scared to get to heavy into it, and then leave him. all that i care about is ME and my future since im noticing nothing else can be reliable.hes my ONE AND ONLY so thats where the hard part comes in. ive never experianced another man, and i feel like his future is dull. in my mind though, i see babies,a dregree,a house in the mountians. i wonder if i can see that with someone else one day. i wondering if trying to leave him will ruin my positive thinking and i will screw up in school and go back to hating myself. anyway sorry for the rant. outside help is needed so here i am. have you ever felt what i am feeling?How do you break up with someone after living with them for 4 years?
Dear Celina,


You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, your thinking of finding a not so stressful job, go back to school and realize that this man is not for you. Don't let this man brain wash you into thinking that he is the only thing you'll ever amount to. As odd as it may seem leaving this man would be the key element of starting your fresh new life, a different you. You go back to school get your education, that is what no one can take away from you. I am all for education, that is something I would love that our new generation take serious so that they can have a bright future. You can also have a bright future, but you need to leave the negative things behind. You might miss a bit but then you will be over it.


You will be able to concentrate in your studies get good grades %26amp; finally graduate, who knows maybe you'll find a very handsome young man that is also interested in getting a career. The world is filled with possibilities don't let yourself get stuck into no where. Life is short, spread your winds and fly. You'll do great. Remember you have a great head on your shoulders you are just with the wrong crowd.





Good Luck~!How do you break up with someone after living with them for 4 years?
Maybe you should find someone who is willing to carry you financially every time that you decide to leave work because its too stressful. It's easy to hate someone who wont let you have everything your way.
once you get your degree you can have all of that on your own, you will find someone that fits you it sounds like he is not the one. It is time to move on and forward
Do what my Ex did. throw stuff at him and cuss a lot. when he retaliates with words tell him what a worthless piece of garbage he is and say your done for good
It is OK to break up. It seems like you have no kids. IT IS OK TO BREAK UP. Find another place. Tell your family back home.
I can tell you dont want to be in this relationship w/ him but you are... i think your love for him is hHabit its been so long that he is all you know. Its time you venture out and find who YOU are with out a man involved, i believe in the ssayingthat whats meant to be will always find a way. If you feel that you are being suffocated and held back in life because of the relationship that you have w/ him , then you need to get out of it asap. That isn't healthy for you nor him, just get your crap together and focus on what you need to get done. will hard work and dedication you can do it! Good Luck!
i say get out now that u can and now thats your actually able to....i was with my ex for 6 years.....thought he was the one....did everything for him treated him like a king...its been bout 6 months now and i havnt looked back....if u want the future you know you deserve and he cant give that to you or make you happy why are you staying? like you said....Its YOUR future....go after your dreams cos he is not going to go after them for you...i never saw what was coming for me when i broke up with my ex....i met someone new....within the month....makes me smile till my cheeks hurt...makes me feel special....you can have that too....you dont know whats waiting for you around the corner....dont stay just because u feel he is your one and only...there is alot more into making a relationship work then just love alone.....marriage is a lifetime...