I was terribly focussed. I had everything under control with a list to keep me going, I knew what I needed to do and in which order.
I knew what and how I was going to take things and I got everything out.
Afterwards i completely collapsed, but I did it.Ladies - or men I guess, how did you break up with someone?
depends on all the circumstances. it was obviously a long term relationship so even if he gets mad and says hurtful things, sop it on the chin and remain calm, remembering that you have had time to think about all this and your only telling him all this now so he will be shocked and upset.
i would not move anything until you are telling him.
stay mature and calm about it, being totally honest with him and respectful towards him at all times, then i would say, i am going to stay at mum and dads (friends houses are never a good option, then he may think your cheating etc) and that you will be back tomorrow arvo to make sure your ok and get some on my things together. if there are items you brought together or something someone gave you, unless you really really want it, let him have it. try and stay calm and reasonable.
good luck hun!
xx
The way I left was preplanned. I got my own apartment and slowly began moving little things at a time. Things that wouldn't be so noticeable. Then one day while he was at work I moved all my major things. Then I called him and told him that I had left because I didn't want him to be shocked when he got home. I actually didn't even take but a few items of furniture. I didn't want to leave him with nothing. I felt dirty doing it this way but he can be quite aggressive and violent at times. It was hard mentally for a couple of weeks but the peacefulness without him made it worth it.
I'd ask him to leave, or you leave and yes, take your things, they are yours and he has no rights to them...if you all are playing house before marriage then spread the stuff up between the 2 of you and move on...no sense in staying where you don't want to be...
I snuck out because he had a tendency towards an explosive temper. I packed up as much as I could and took the most important things. Luckily for me he came to a point where he was civil and let me back in for more stuff.
I am a Guy and my girlfriend just broke up with me last week it was bad for me she just told me she didn't want to see me anymore I really loved her so it has been hard but I am slowly getting over her so good luck to you
I simply told her I was at my limit and I was finished. I packed my stuff, grabbed my cat, and SLID. The last thing I wanted to do was to EVER go back to that house for ANY reason.
I would probably just grab some clothes, and just leave the other cheap stuff, and hit the road, and maybe if he was nice enough I would go and get my other stuff.
I didn't even say anything. I just blocked him on IM and didn't pick up any calls. It's called negative confirmation.
';There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.';
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