Any advice on how do decide if you are in love with someone, afraid to break up or a little of both???

I love my boyfriend more than I have loved anybody EVER. Most of our relationship has been really good, in spite of many hard ups and downs. He does not seem to want to help our relationship to progress although he says he does. We live together and always talk about our future and what we want, but his actions say he just wants to keep things just as they are, forever or until I get fed up. We have been fighting a lot lately and I am starting to feel like I am wasting my time with him, but the thought of breaking up with him kills me.


Is there any advice you can give me regarding what I should do or any statements you can make that will give me some perspective?Any advice on how do decide if you are in love with someone, afraid to break up or a little of both???
Don't give him an ultimatum but sit him down and have a very serious conversation with him about what you want and need for your life in order to accomplish your goals, and about what direction you want your life to go in. If he knows you are serious, either he will step up or you have your answer and you need to leave and find you somebody that wants to help you achieve your goals in life and not impede them. Don't depend on a man or anyone to make you happy, but take steps to get what you want out of life. And if a man loves you, he will step up if he thinks he is about to lose you. Don't play at being married to a man when there is no commitment.Any advice on how do decide if you are in love with someone, afraid to break up or a little of both???
try to imagine different situations... it's what i do.





like... if you could meet someone new EXACTLY like your boyfriend, would it interest you at all? if not you probably just fear the IDEA of change.





try to figure out if you love him or the IDEA of him. if you started all over a met him again tomorrow, would you do it over? what would you do differently? could you see yourself with him forever? if not it might be time to get out before you fully reject the idea of ever having another relationship.