How do you break up with someone you love when you know deep in your heart they are not the one for you?

I am 26 and have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years and he is 33. Our relationship has had a lot of ups a downs but we always manager to get through things. However I have been having the feeling that he may not be the one for me. We started dating only a few months after i left my ex boyfriend of six years. He moved into my house after 2 months of dating. I am now feeling trapped becuase i have never lived on my own independenly and feel like we rushed into things before getting to know each other. I do love him but would like to be friends for a while and if meant to be and if we are ready and still single we can start a relationship again. I have expressed this to him in past arguments but he told me he could not be in a relationship with me as just friends. He is a really sweet guy and i don't want to hurt his feelings. Additionally he has 2 teenage daughters who have grown to think of me as a stepmother and i a 6 year old son who lives with us has grown to think of him as a stepfather and will be heartbroken if we were to seperate. Our parents has also grown to consider myself and he is part of their families. And to top it off he and i work in the same building together. Please help! Any suggestions,ideas, or stories of a similar situation would help.How do you break up with someone you love when you know deep in your heart they are not the one for you?
Do what you normally do; cheat on him!How do you break up with someone you love when you know deep in your heart they are not the one for you?
Try and pin point what exactly it is about your relationship that you feel has changed. With all relationships it鈥檚 never all easy sailing, you need to ask yourself deep down if you still want to be with him and if so talk about your concerns. If you feel he鈥檚 not the one then there is absolutely no point being in a relationship and you should end it now rather then later, no matter how hard it is for everyone involved (it will only become harder over time).





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how could u do all that and not like him deep down in ur heart?? u have 2 talk 2 him abt it u have 2 before u get prego n u get stuck with him
if you feel he isnt the one for you then you shouldnt waste anymore time and just sit him down and tell him how you feel as youve done here. i know how you feel i can relate. its better to get out now if this is what you really want.
u have to divorce just have him visit ur child then u can visit them
just tell him that
Well, if it weren't for the children involved, I'd definitely say that you needed to tell him just what you posted here--that you don't want to hurt his feelings, but that you'd like a bit of time to yourself to kind of think things through for a bit.


Considering that there are children, however, it's going to be harder. I'm wondering if it'd be possible for you to take a small vacation to yourself. Since you work together, you need to be away from that to really be able to think objectively about this. Since you have talked briefly about it, it's pretty obvious that you're either going to stick with him or completely break it off with him--no middle ground. But you need to get away for a bit (even if it's only a few days) to decide which that is.