How do you break up with someone you share so much with?

I feel afraid of breaking up, because the thought of entering the world alone scares me. We have been together for 4 years, our lives are so closely meshed together, we live together, are soulmates, share the same beliefs had made plans for the future, I knew he would be there for me when I needed help no matter how big or small. How can I leave all this behind I dont really have any friends because I would spend all of our time together.





I feel scared, I dont think I could cope without him :0(, But its not fair of me to stay with. But I think its whats best, it would be unfair of me to stay with him.





How do I start living my own life?


How can I kindly and gently tell him how I feel?How do you break up with someone you share so much with?
Sorry but you are coming across as self centred, looking for attention. And not making a lot of sense! How can you ask for advice when you dont state all the facts?





There are two in a relationship and your b/f deserves his say as well! So tell us what the real problem is, and maybe you will get some good advice.How do you break up with someone you share so much with?
I'm alone right now. My wife has left for hme this morning. I'm filing for divorce today. I have to leave here in a few minutes to see the lawyer.





My advice is to find someone that will love sweety. I didn't love my wife and that is where I went wrong.





You have to find love and then everything will be right.





Write me anytime on my email...it's simple to write and get advice from someone going thru it right now.
That is very difficult as you planned everything together.You need to know why you want to break up.Is it a genuine reason that you are unhappy or is it that you think the grass is greener on the other side as you have not given a reason why you want to break up





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It sounds like you love him why do you want to leave? Maybe you should see what it is that bothering you first.If you do leave there really is no easy way of telling a person that,just be nice I guess when you do,just be sure this is what you really want to do
You did not mention why it was so unfair for you to stay with him? Either way, it is not healthy to be so dependent on anyone. Before you make any decisions get into therapy as it apparent you have insecurity issues. Good luck to you.
Relationships have a start and an end..if not in a month then a lifetime.if you truly want him away do it now.do not keep a relationship that is taking you no where better do it now than repent later it could be late.
What is the problem? It sounds to me that you have found your life's love. Why do you think it is not fair for you to stay with him?
Why do you want to leave him then?
I was just like you in a loveless marriage,so speaking from experience please know all of your moves before you make them.


Most people I knew were divorced and weren't much happier than being in a relationship where they knew the person well enough.


However you need to find out who you really are.


Go into this carefully as your life depends on it.


That saying the grass is not always greener on the other side happens to be true.





I advocate an interception first a professional in relationships to see if its what you both want.





With that determined now you have a basis or foundation to start from.





Being married for 17 years has been hard for me too,


but taking the good and bad I would rather be here than anywhere else,with someone that knows me inside and out,


So much in common that if I broke that bond I don't know if I would be happier either.





Remember that everyone that gets into a relationship brings whatever the baggage was left over in all of there others.





So clearly its up to you to know what you want ,and don't look back ,or simply make it work.
why would you want to leave him if you love him, and need him so much? are you feeling its just like a ';roomate'; situation? did you fall out of love? did he do something? why is it not fair to stay? did you do something? make sure that u really want to break up, cuz if he's such a good guy, some other girl will snatch him up in a second. dont think for a second that other women in his life havent thought about starting a relationship with him. he has shown that he can be faithful, bla bla, women love that. just like women are attracted to married men. * NOT ME* *NEVER* *THATS WRONG* but some are....good luck.