How do you break up with a live -in partner you were with for 4 years?

we are living together and are great at the first year and a half of the relationship that we got engaged. after awhile we started having petty arguments and he will call me names and cuss. he will say sorry afterwards and i am left in shock. he has a good heart but has anger issues. there are other things that i later on realized are not well-matched with my personality and i feel like it has started to change me. i also slowly began to realize that my emotions are starting to detach from him and feel that i dont want to marry him nor have kids with him. i tried breaking up with him multiple times but because i live with him, i feel trapped. i am financially independent but my friends and family are not around me for comfort and guidance, hence it has been really difficult. i met someone who is his total opposite and i want to be with him instead. do i just disappear? or do i still tell the truth, though i know he has anger issues? pls help.How do you break up with a live -in partner you were with for 4 years?
I was in this exact same situation a few years ago. I felt so trapped, and because we had been together for so long I didn't even know how to bring it up that I wanted to leave. My ex also had anger issues, and that was a big reason I was afraid to bring it up. I decided to distance myself from him slowly. I talked to my aunt and she said I could stay with her for awhile. We packed up all my stuff one day when he wasn't home, and when he got back I told him I thought we needed a break and I was going to stay at my aunt's. My aunt and uncle were there when I told him, so he couldn't get too upset. After being at my aunt's for awhile I decided to move a few hours away to live with a friend. I didn't tell him, I just up and left. I think you have to do what's best for you and not worry about his feelings. He's obviously not worried about yours if he calls you names. I know you said your family isn't close to you. Can you move to where they are and stay with them for awhile until you get on your feet? I know it's scary but trust me, you'll look back and realize it was the best thing you ever did.How do you break up with a live -in partner you were with for 4 years?
It is better to talk it out with him before you leave. Since you can't get along anymore, it is for the best. I suggest you have your family members or friends with you since he has anger issuses. You should pack up and leave after telling him the truth. Nevermind, if he doesn't agree, just go and don't look back. Good luck.....
......its better you discussed to your live in partner......that you dont love him anymore....its hard to say, but it will set your mind and heart free....live in relationships can be solved easily since there are no legal papers required to process. Only the things that you share would be the problem, its better to move out in the apartment and take your own personal things with you and move on to your new life....
Leave now! I was with a man who sounds just like your bf only difference is that I went ahead and married him. Now here I am only 3 years later ready to leave but now I have no job and a 6 month old daughter. Don't do that to yourself. Things will never get better especially considering that hes not the kind of person you can talk things out with
Can you move back ';home'; to either live with family or at least your hometown to have their support? I know that may not be the best option.... When is your lease up on your home? At renewal time sit him down and tell him that things are not going the way that they should and both of you need to move on...
tell him it is not working out and that you are sorry but you need to leave and start over do not tell him you have found someone else that will only make it worse for you and if he has a temper it will get ugly find a way to move out without telling him someone else is involved.
yes you have tell him how you feel and think it best to call it a day so you both can find someone else. If you do it softly and do not get into an argument the anger thing should not come up.
it will repeat in ur next relation ship,coz u show ur best for first year and the the next year u start finding faults,first falln love,then every he does will be fantastic to u till old age
Just leave. Find a place to live and move out.
This is just a thought. I feel you are doing the wrong thing by transferring from one relationship to another, you may find yourself in the same position again.


Yo really need to try living alone and be single for a while. This way you won't make hasty decisions. I know it is hard living alone, however there are lots of people looking to share accommodation. Find it within yourself to be self reliant and independent in every way. We all manage and get by somehow. It is quite rewarding.


You should just tell him you are not interested in resuming the relationship for reasons concerning your clashing personalities. Leave this new guy out of it, there is no need to break his heart further if you wish to break it off anyway.


Also, don't compare other men to your current boyfriend, they all seem perfect at the beginning. Are you willing to lose another 4 years to find out the hard way?


Get to know them well before making a commitment to live together. This arrangement always drags and exhausts the relationship to the point where there is no need for marriage or you will break up due to incorrect choices.


Good Luck.
I am truly sorry to hear about your dillema. however, as you


know, two people get together and spend some time going around only to know each other better before making decisions about being engaged and ultimately, if they are totally satisfied, think about marriage. now, you have done exactly that and aren't satisfied with your choice. therefore, there is nothing wrong with your decision concerning a break up. so before you leave, you better talk to him and tell him about it. i personally think you should leave him. the way he's acting will only cause you a lot of torment and sorrow.
Talk it over with him. It is better to have realized it now that you do not love him anymore than being married to him and applying for a divorce later or worst having an affair. The sooner you separate ways the better for you two than hurting each other as time goes by. It would be hard at first to accept the separation by him but you can get over it in due time. Like married couples you find faults with each other or getting too familiar with each other.It is difficult to find a perfect partner. So if you cannot stand him anymore. So split up with him and move on. You deserve to be happy and not sacrifice your happiness by staying with him. Move out of your house and stand on your own two feet.
I don't understand what these anger issues really mean. You don't say he hits you and you have told him multiple times you want to break up but don't go through with it and you are financially independent and cheating on him. Your making excuses for yourself because you are in a postion to move on. Tell him its over and move out. He could be angry because he is frustrated with you and knows this relationship is not working. Be honest with him so you can both move on.If there is something else then maybe you will add further comments.