Have you ever been spineless enough to break up with someone over the phone?

just wondering how people don't have enough respect to break up face to face and am wondering what would possess a person to do it over the phone? especially when they have been with you for a few months and live down the road!!Have you ever been spineless enough to break up with someone over the phone?
generally this is spineless behavior, but in a few situations it is not and is acceptable for a man/woman to break up over the phone or by letter or text.





1- long-distance, obviously you don't wait 6 months till your 1 week stay in tahiti to break up with someone.





2- if there is a risk to the person (usually this is a girl afraid of a guy) or if she will cause a scene and start breaking things (if the one breaking it off is a guy). or perhaps if the person is mentally unstable (why were you dating them in the first place?)





if there is a risk of some unusual circumstances, I can see it. better safe than end up in a meat wagon. again- this is probably mostly a fear a girl will have- a guy would more stupidly do it in person and end up with stab wounds.





3- to add insult to it becasue a person did something so low and shocking that you don't feel it is appropriate to show respect. (sitting around with your friends and one of them pops in a movie which is accidently the home movie of your soon to be ex gf bieng gang banged by your friend and his three brothers)








your basic premise is right- i'm just bieng a pain in the *** and pointing out exceptions.Have you ever been spineless enough to break up with someone over the phone?
I've definitly done that. I broke up with a boyfriend over the phone. There were a couple reasons.


1- By that time I didnt really like him much (we dated more than a year) so I didnt really want to see him again and tolerate his presence long enough to break up with him in person.


2- A phone conveys the message just the same as my ackward body language would.


3- Its easy to hang up on someone to make them shut up.


4- What if they start crying or something? I definitely don't want to deal with that.





Just because I dated someone doesnt mean I have any responsibility to act any way towards them. Its not cowardly to do it over the phone. They're lucky I'm telling them at all. I dont have the responsibility to be miserable and tell them in person, its not going to make it any easier on them, its just going to make it harder on me, and that's what dating is all about-Avoiding that.
Yes.





Both my relationships ended by me doing the texting.





The first one was cowardly, but the second was because I was hurt after reading nasty things in a diary. She didn't deserve a face to face break up.





Also, the first one had bad breath, so because of all the hot air generated in a break up talk, I thought it safest to do it from the comfort of my bed.
nope. i think its such a shallow, stupid and pathetic way of doing things. but a guy i once liked did it to me. and not only that, he did it via text msging during the winter season in december. it really gave me a bad case of winter blues. and he went about his life as if everything is ok. he told me how he wasnt very interested as he had a gf when for the whole entire year he was extremely exclusive with me and even told me he liked me.





disrespectful is just too mild a word. i cant help it, but i sure hope some girl dumps him the way he did me sometime in his life. and ruin his christmas as well. karma always comes back to you anyway.
I have broken up with someone over the phone before... I wanted to do it in person, but whenever we were together, it's really hard to just say by the way i want to break up.


He had no idea it was coming, so when he would see me he would hug and kiss me and have a huge smile... what am I supposed to do, dump him after all that?


I think I broke up with him on the phone as much for his sake as for my own...



Hey at least he didn't break up with you over a text message. My ex-boyfriend 29 years old broke up with me over a text message.. Now how sad is that? The last thing he said to me in person was I LOVE YOU then a few hours later I get a text saying we should go our separate ways..... So don't feel so bad consider you're self lucky to even get that....
I have once but it was because the person i was braking up with was violent so i did it for my own safety cause I knew they wouldn't take it well.


Other than that I'd never do it any other way than face to face if I could.
Breakups are never pleasant for either party. Post-its, email, phone...in person...they all suck. Sorry...hope you feel better soon...
Nah. If you don't break up with someone face to face it just means you lack the courage and are disrespecting them because of it.
Unlike you I am a complete coward. I have not the courage to say this to them face to face.
my exbf broke up with a girl over the phone... even worse he just left her a message on her answering machine. That is why when he broke up with me (in a rude manner) I was not surprised.
no no. its very rude.





and you can really hurt the person that way.
when-they-are-scared-of-your-reaction.
No. It's wrong. You wouldn't like someone doing it to you would you?
No never, its a cruel thing to do.
yeah i've done it but it makes you feel soooooo bad i would never do it again



no