How to overcome a break up with someone you're currently living with?

Ok. I'm 19 and my until-last night-boyfriend 27, he broke up with me yesterday. We were having problems for the last 1-2 months but we were doing fine. He sometimes used to tell me that he felt like better being alone, just like that, but that he didn't understand why, I was always very supportive and comprenhensive to him.We had a crisis last week and again he began to tell me that he wasn' t sure about himself and what did he want, so I suggested him to go together to a counselor, and he completely agreed, he used to tell me that he loved me , and I love him to so we took the desicion together. Yesterday we went to our first session with the conselour, and we did pretty good , we walked home talking and everything was fine. But then at home he suddenly told me that he wanted to be alone, that we should break up and that he didn't really know if he loved me or not... WTF?





I'm so brokenhearted, we live together, I feel like hell, what did I do wrong? I really love him so much.How to overcome a break up with someone you麓re currently living with?
I've completely been there, with an older guy, too. You need - NEED - to move out. It will be stressful, hectic and I am sure you do not feel like you can handle it emotionally, but trust me, it will only get worse if you stay.


Sounds like you have not done anything ';wrong'; per se, he is clearly not feeling some portion of the relationship or his own life in general. You do need to back off and give him time. However, in telling him that while you love him, you are respecting his want for time apart and you want to eventually be together, make sure you make him understand that you will not wait forever.


If you pose this as him having the power, he'll take advantage. Its nothing against him, its human nature; he may be very wonderful, but if you act like a doormat that will be there whenever he needs to wipe his feet, eventually he WILL treat you as such (can you tell I didn't move out and on fast enough? oops!).


You are articulate, you can write and use proper grammar unlike many on here, so I have no doubt that you will be able to pick up the pieces and put your heart, and head, back on straight soon. For now, give him space, let him know your feelings, but really, you have to let him battle his own demons at this point.


Good luck.How to overcome a break up with someone you麓re currently living with?
How long have you been living together? How long has the relationship been going on?





Because of your age I will assume less than 2 years???? If that is the case it is kind of strange for you to go to counseling if you are not married? What kind of counselor did you go to and what for?
It's understandable to be upset that he broke up with you since you dont even seem to know the reason why, but to be honest, if you two were having problems then maybe it just wasnt meant to be especially since he always wanted to be alone.