How do you break up with someone who hyperventilates and threatens to kill themselves if you do?

Any time you mention ';break'; or ';break up';, it's a whole fountain of tears and screams....Is that normal?


They say they can't live without you and won't...


Is it a form of blackmail?How do you break up with someone who hyperventilates and threatens to kill themselves if you do?
This is definately a form of manipulation. If you have trouble following through with the break-up when your sig. o. makes threats of suicide, there are a few things that you can do to make the break up easier:





1. Make sure your sig. o. has a support system in place out side of you. Make someone in this support system aware of your concerns and intentions.





2. Be firm when you break up. Do not waiver, and do not give the impression that you might be willing to change your mind.





3. Make it a clean break. This is not a situation where you can remain friends.How do you break up with someone who hyperventilates and threatens to kill themselves if you do?
It is a form of a blackmail. Do not fall for it.
thats scary! gradually stop calling the person and gradually stop hanging out with them and act a little distant and then they will break it off themselves.
try to convince them to go to a therapist even if you have to go too. let them know that they are living a lie by beleiving that the relationship could actually flourish. their problem is far greater than the eventual break up. explain to them why you are unhappy with the relationship and why they need counselling. and it is definately a form of controll if not blackmail. it will probably be a messy break up no matter what but you need to know for yourself that you did all that you could to help this person get the real help he/she needs so they dont carry out their threat. or if they do you will not feel responsible.
Well it hasn't happened to me but I do have advice. If you want to break up with them, then tell them and if they say they'll kill themselves then don't feel pressured. If they say it you should tell somebody from his/her family and let them handle the job. But you have to tell the family quickly and not let it give you guilt. Good Luck.
how two hedgehogs make love?


gently!


do it very very gently and hope for the best.


or make him break up with you.
Being a ';gentle'; person myself, which is sometimes good and sometimes bad, I can appreciate your wish to end your relationship gently. You are probably already good at being gentle. Your challenge might be to prepare yourself for the not-so-gentle work you have to do. Here are some rules for you:





1. Don't forget that ending is not a nice thing. Own up to the shadow aspects of this important job. Be prepared to be the ';bad guy'; and discover that there can be joy in that role.





2. Before you have the ending conversation, get it clear in your mind. You want and need to end this now. Set aside complexity for a while and go for simple.





3. You don't have to give reasons. You know that the reason is that you don't love this person now. Don't be led into the tangle and trap of looking for valid reasons. Love is not a reasonable thing.





4. Be gentle, but also be firm and clear. You can be one part firm to two parts gentle, but no more gentle than that.


5. You have already ended it in your mind, so after the conversation let it be. No regurgitation. No tying up loose ends. Do the main job of ending and let all the details take care of themselves. End of discussion.





6. In spite of rule #5, know that closure is only an ideal. You may always wonder about and even regret this ending. You may dream of this person all your life. Deep down in your soul, endings are only commas, not periods. They aren't as final as they seem to be in the moment. Allow yourself a lot of contradictory feelings, but don't let them interfere with the achievement of a good, clear ending. Sharp and neat makes gentle possible.
Give them a card to a psychologist and say ';Bye';.
no not normal, and yes a form of blackmail, sounds like some serious co dependency and fear of being alone and a plethora of other issues as well no doubt.