How do you break up with someone that you currently live with?

I currently live with my fiance of 2 years. He moved down to my state to start our live together. Well, to make a long story short, things are not working out. We don't sleep in the same bed, haven't had sex during the 2 years at all, and seem to be on opposite ends of the spectrum as far as our goals. We are totally opposite of each other as well. I work out, he doesn't. I do things around the house, he doesn't. His weight has always been issue because he is obese and doesn't want to do anything about it at all. I'm tired of being the one to do everything around house just to get up at 3 am to cut the tv from him watching it. Then when I ask him to cut the tv off at night before he goes to bed, he doesn't! He knows that this wakes both myself and my child up at night. The only thing we have in common is that we were high school sweethearts. Any ideas on how I can break up with this person without causing a financial hardship on both of us since we have shared bills and $?How do you break up with someone that you currently live with?
Wow, at first I was going to say that it should not matter if you are not having sex. After all, you are not married, and that should traditionally be reserved until after marriage. However, you two can still show some intimacy with each other, but from your description it sounds as though even this is lacking. This is a problem, that and the fact that he is getting overweight and doesn't want to do anything productive with his life. So what you need to do is this: think about what attracted you to him initially. Write these down in a list of some sort. Then sit down with him and talk out the current situation with him. State your demands so that they are prefectly clear - that you will leave his sorry but if he does not get his act together! Let him know why you were originally attracted to him. Hopefully this will allow him to see the folly of his ways, and will provide him with an incentive to get things together. Providing him with an ultimatum is the most important. You should not have to go through life tied to a couch potato. I hope this advice helps, and I wish you the best of luck in this issue!How do you break up with someone that you currently live with?
Ask him to move out (I'm sure it won't come as a shock to him). Then get yourself a roommate at least they'll help with the bills AND the housework.
not easy.....


sit him down and make demands.


this is whats going to happen....


your moving here or im moving there and your paying this and im paying that.....


see ya....
If it's really this bad, he probably knows it's coming. You can't be in a relationship with someone and not see that things are this crappy. And if he doesn't realize it then you can bring that up as another reason why you shouldn't be together. He doesn't pay attention.
Well, I'm pretty sure that after living for that long, you would be considered married by the state. So, if you want to sue him, then that's an option. But you don't sound like you want to do that. You could go to counseling. Or, you could just take your stuff, and your kid and move out while he's gone and then call him and break up. I don't suggest telling him where you are when/if you make this call. Good luck to ya!
Be up front say you can`t do this no more and give them time to move out.Then go on with your life.
There is no easy way...the best thing you two can do is agree that it is over and then start planning from there how to deal with moving forward. The key in doing this is to set a specific date for things to occur and stick to the plan.
You either find another place to live, find another roommate, or find an additional job...





Be honest with him that things just aren't working out as you'd hoped, and you feel it best if the two of you go your separate ways...then either he, you, or both of you moves out and moves on...





Good luck!
You tell him the relationship is over and tell him to get out.
you need to find somewhere else to live before you break up with him. can you live with your parents? after you find a place to go tell him that you cannot deal with him and you do not love him and that you are leaving. just because you went out in high school doesnt mean you have to put up with such a loser he sounds liek a gross loser. dump him asap. take your kid with you and never look back





good luck
You have to decide what is more important: you and your child's welfare or financial stability. If you marry this guy, do you think that he will change? Most likely not. You need to kick this guy to the curb. If you think about it, what is this guy doing for you except helping you pay the bills. Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life? I didn't hear you mention the word ';love'; anywhere in your question. Find a place to live that you can afford to live without him. You and your child deserve better. Also, no matter how old your child is, he/she will pick up on this bad behavior on his part and could grow up believing that this is normal. Would you want your child to marry someone like him? Dump him now.
This is why people shouldn't play house.





Be an adult, speak to him. Tell him you plan on moving out. You want to work out the bills with him before you go and get it in writing. WRITING WRITING WRITING





If not I will see you on Judge Judy.
Tell him how you feel and together you can make a plan. Figure out how to split everything so you both can move on. He sounds like he might be staying around because he is too lazy to move on, but you are better than that. Just try it and if he doesnt want to talk about it and be friends then oh well, its his loss.
No, its going to be hard. You will have to work through it.
This is a financial arrangement, not an emotional one. You must separate from him as you would any other roommate. The best way is probably to tell him that it's not working and you are going to find another place and then move out, unless he would like to move first.





You don't say how big your house is. Can you bring in a same-sex roommate to share in the bills? That's the time-honored method! You may have to move to a smaller place for awhile if you can't find a roomie.





Let this be a lesson before moving someone else in with a child in the house. You have not mentioned this part of the equation so I assume that they have very little interaction.