How do you break up with someone that you live with and share finances with?

I've lived with him for over 2 years. The bank accounts and credit cards are all in my name. Most of the furniture and personal belongings were purchased while we were together on my credit cards. Both cars are in my name, one paid off and the other we are paying payments on. My income made up 60% of the total. I feel guilty if I take everything, but I don't know what to give him and what to keep. Is it wrong to setup a separate bank account to put money aside for savings when I leave? Do I leave right away? Or do I wait until I'm finacially ready?How do you break up with someone that you live with and share finances with?
it's very hard to leave when your lives are kinda of one. you feel bad for leaving. since most of the stuff you share are in your name and you don't want to leave him with nothing. i understand how your feeling right now. i really do. in some ways I'm in the same boat.as i sit here 1in the morning have way to much on my mind to sleep.looking for people to help or dealing with a similar situation.if you feel you can sit down and really talk things over with him no fighting aloud.get all the bill that are in your name.close them or ask that he be taken off.set up a account so its not hard on you when you do get your own place and if i were you i would tell him to do the same. the best thing is try not to fight it will only bring more problems along the way.since both cars are in your name and one is paid off. see if he wants the other car he would take over the payments and get it put in his name just in case later down the road something happens your not responsible.i know its hard but you will work everything out and move on happy that you did. you ever need to talk e-mail me brooke_sittner@yahoo.comHow do you break up with someone that you live with and share finances with?
Why do you even ask, you already know the answers! Open another checking account, in your name only, but don't transfer anything until ';JUST BEFORE, LIKE THE DAY BEFORE, you leave this dude. I'm assuming the credit cards are in your name only, correct? If not, cancel them via computer, and telephone, and by cutting them up, and placing an notice in the local newspaper, I________am not responsible for any debts of______________from this date forward. Believe me, been there, done that. You'll be playing MS SUPER_NASTY, but unless you repay him for his payments of the cars, he'll probably take you to court, after you leave. But, figure out what you think he paid you for the cars, furniture, and write him a ';certified'; check for that amount the ';day after'; you leave, or maybe two days, or three. If his photo, picture is on the item, like Jesus said, ';Give Unto Caesar What Is His';, but keep everything else! This is how I got rid of my former girlfriend of 3 years about 4 years ago. This time, do as I say, and did! Don't forget the certified check part.
You break up with him VERY carefully......
wait till you have enough money to leave. if i were u and im not id take everything.
wait till your financially ready, don't spend more.
well most everything is in yo name and yall aint married so if you dont want him no more you just dont want him so give him what you want and what you dont wanna give him dont give it to him and leave him *** if you want to. gurl that **** is yours.
split up now no need making a bad situation worse. Give him the things he paid for, treat him like you would want to be treated if the roles were reversed
If you wait until you are financially ready, you will be waiting a very long time. Whatever you dont take with you when you leave will not so much be lost in a monetary manner as will be your sense of independence and strength emotionally having waited until ';the time is right.';





If you walk away you stand to lose some of your financial investments whether furniture, cars, etc... and if you stay, what is it you will gain? Do you think he will be kinder to you for staying when your heart isn't in the relationship? It won't happen...





If you have the ability to ask the question here you have the ability to leave. You can arrange everything from your movers to your new home online without even moving out of your chair. If you cant be happy in your relationship, dont waste time you can never get back dear...
Believe me, the circumstances of your material and financial reality will resolve itself with your attention AFTER you leave. Leaving is always difficult for fear of the hurt and guilt. Though it's tough, leave without regret and attend to the important personal matters like finances, family, career, and personal development. It's a cathartic experience to tell someone you love that you must leave to further develop what God started long ago. Good Luck!
I lived with a guy for eight years. We had separate bank accounts, but we split the bills. We even bought a house together, but we drew up a legal partnership on it so both of us owned it equally. When he left, I bought his half of the house. Most of the furniture was mine, so I kept it. If you need to go, then go. Your money isn't community property unless you're married. But I do think he deserves some compensation. If you paid for the car together, for example, pay him for his share. Even if the car is in your name, he put money toward it. Same for the other stuff you bought together. You have to split it fairly. Really, you can't just leave him with nothing just because the credit cards were in your name. If he paid part of the bills, then you can't walk off as if it all belongs to you.
TAKE IT ALL AND RUN FAR FAR FAR AWAY


-EVIL LAUGH-
The best way to do it is like pulling off a band aid... quickly!!! You have the advantage as you own most things. You can get his name taken off things etc.. Don;t wait... it will only A. make you miserable B. lazy (eg not leaving him as it is too much hassle). Your obviously not happy so stick to your guns. Leave now!
it depends, is it a maturity breakup? if it isnt then its goin 2 b hard, coz as a guy, we are ***holes, we think thts evrything shld b ours, so the best way 2 deal wit it is end it in good terms, or try to. let him kno why u breakin up, make him feel like the bad guy, tht way he feel terrible n let u hav evrythin lol. time b serious, lol. the best way is 2 work out the total purchase cost n how much each of u pay 4, im not sure if u mean u pay 4 60% n him 40% but woteva the split is jst compromise eg if u pay majority of the car, u shld get it, not him. i dont think its wrong 4 u 2 open a seperate account, its ur money, u can do woteva u like. abt leavin? its hard 2 say, u can leave weneva ur ready, plus its a bad idea to stay under the same roof wen u break up,oh yeh, the break up, depending wot kind of person he is n whether or not his violent, my advice is 2 break up in public, coz u kno he b thinkin tht u gona take evrythin, do u hav insurance? woteva u decide, good luck , up it goes well 4 u