How do you break up with someone that has done nothing wrong...Serious Only Plz?

This is a follow up to the question I asked about a week and ago. I live over 1000 miles from my boyfriend. We see each other about every other month. Nither of us can leave where we are for job reasons.





I like him a lot but I really dont belive that anything is going to change in the near feature. I think the best thing to do is to break it off now, before we progress to much farther, to avoid any more heart ache then what is going to be already. ( we ahev been dating 6 months) The problem is he has done nothing wrong, and I really dont this is affecting him like it is me. How do I tell him this with out hurting him.... We ahve a trip planed in a few weeks and I dont know if I should go or not. Do I tell him in person, over the phone, or in an email???





Help PleaseHow do you break up with someone that has done nothing wrong...Serious Only Plz?
Seems to me the best way to address the situation is to be forthright and talk to him about your concerns. If your decision is to move on to find someone more accessible to you, then say that. There is no real way to break up with someone that won't result in hurt feelings. But to be true to yourself and the most fair to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel and what you want. Personally, I would recommend doing it face to face, even though it may be uncomfortable. You may want to continue seeing one another after talking about it, but if it does end, be able to step away knowing that in the long run it may be the best thing for your both.How do you break up with someone that has done nothing wrong...Serious Only Plz?
If you love him and he loves you well you should follow ur heart
definatley tell him in person and he probably feels the same just explain that if you were meant for each other love will come back to you!
Oh, Sweetheart, you have got yourself a conundrum haven't you. I would suggest you tell him the same things you told us: that the relationship is just too far apart, neither of you are willing to relocate...etc etc. Reassure him that he's not at any fault and that you simply want to move on and be able to give yourself a more local relationship. Please tell him in person. If you love him, he deserves a personal answer. Never break up with someone if you're not face to face. I know it's harder this way, but it's better for the both of you. Bless you both. Good luck.
I really think that you are too shallow, immature and impulsive. You just do not want to continue in a relationship just because you guys live far away (1000 miles)? , well... why you start it in first place?





However, since you are in the relationship already think about it. You said that you guys have been dating six month and you have seen each other ';every other month';, this means that you guys have seen probably 3 or 4 times... this is not enough time to get to know each other. I just think that you are afraid of the commitment and you do not want to go further because you do not want to get hurt. I honestly think that this is not even a relationship, is just the dating period. I think you should talk to him in person... and be honest with him, tell him the truth, after all, is better to have a good friend than a bad lover.
if the main problem is not seeing eachother, then yes, you should go on the trip


after (or during) the trip take a mental evaluation and see if you really want to break it off, in person is best, anything else could come off as whimpy
NOT AN EMAIL! If there is little future or the chemistry isn't there. That's all the reason you need. You deserve happiness. Don't be an asss about it. You're an adult. If you do it in a way that you can remain friends. And state what you said here, you should be fine.
sorry but you are lucky... ive been with my girl for nearly 3 years, she is in cali... i am in new zealand.... which is way further than 1000 miles.... im moving out there very soon but we go for so long without seeing each other.... the trick... we love each other and i would do anything for her.... you can make it last if you really want to, maybe you are just finding excuses not to.
There is no way not to get some hurt feelings when friends or partners break up. It is part of growing up. Part of being an adult is dealing with disappointment. Be kind, be honest, and be clear. Tell him exactly what you wrote in your question. Make it short, make it unequivocal, and follow with a paragraph of the things you like most about him and how someone much close to his home will be lucky to find him. Good luck to you.